Private Eyes


I read an article today about a mother who posted photos of her little girl online and found them on a website that was for pedophiles. She had innocently posted pictures of her little girl and somehow, thank God, found them on the site. Did I mention the little girl was about 8 months old? Sickos!! But I don’t really want to get into that. This is disturbing on so many different levels. I too post pictures of my children and I honestly try, to the best of my ability, to keep it as private as humanly possible. And maybe now I may step up even more and take precautions. I am so disturbed and sickened on so many different levels that this has to be done. I do not understand it and I am not sure I want to. Now, I justify my posting of pictures to “just” my Facebook friends but that really isn’t enough. I have a decent number of “friends”, almost 900, so statistically someone is a pedophile. That is based on numbers alone but sickening nonetheless. No one wants to think that of someone you actually know but as parents we don’t have the luxury of trusting the world. I have decided to “clean up” my Facebook friends. I have had an account since 2009 so I have accumulated a lot of friends in many different ways. I will say, too, that I love Facebook. I love being able to stay in contact with people that I no longer get to stay in touch with on a regular basis. And, I live away from my family so they do not get to see my boys the way I wish they could so this keeps us a little bit more connected. And let’s face it, everyone loves a little JP!! I do, however, believe that there is far greater good in the world than bad. I am making the decision to be more cautious though and I ask you to do the same. If I had a little girl I would not ever post a picture of her posing in a bathing suit. With girls looking older and “sexier” at younger and younger ages, you cannot be too careful. I will not put my boys in their underwear even though I see nothing cuter or more innocent than a little boy running around in his underwear!! The consequences are just too great. Teenagers too. I realize that as a young girl it feels good to be told you look pretty or to be complimented, I only wish they could realize the consequences. It is one thing to take a “selfie”, but there is no reason to show your cleavage. Do you really want a man, or boy, who likes you based on that? I know girls don’t think that way at a young age, well let’s face facts, many don’t at any age…. Also, while I am somewhat on topic, DO NOT send your boyfriend a picture of your boobs either!! No matter how “in love” you think you are or how much he promises not to show anyone, He will!! I repeat…..HE WILL SHOW HIS FRIENDS YOUR BOOBS!! Or, whatever else you send him!  You don’t want that stuff out there. Sadly, it can haunt you for a long time. (Again, thank God I did not grow up in this day and age!) I think parents are too lenient when it comes to Facebook and Instagram. I don’t believe in privacy for teenagers when it comes to social media. If I had a dollar for every time I heard “my daughter wouldn’t do that”. Really? Even “good girls” make mistakes. Even “smart girls” make bad choices. Some people’s mistakes are just bigger than others….


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